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How to Instantly Bond With Grandchildren Through Reading

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Grandparents can do many bonding activities with their grandchildren. One of the main activities includes reading. Reading with grandchildren leaves lasting memories for both the grandparent and the grandchildren. There are several tips that can be applied to ensure the time spent reading with a grandchild is fruitful and bonding takes place. These tips include choosing books wisely. Reading should be an enjoyable time to look forward to hence a library of favorite books should be established.

Choosing the right books is important in order to ensure the child does not get bored and always looks forward to reading time. Older children are able to point out their favorite authors or areas of interests. Accompanying a child to the library can enable the child to make their own decision on what book to read. Books from the local library that are interesting can be bought for the child as a gift. Adults and friends can also be asked to make recommendations on books they know are interesting to read out to children. Organizations also provide lists of various books that are good for children. A child who finds interesting books to read will enjoy the time of reading but one who does not will feel like it is a chore and will not look forward to spending time with their grandparent. It is therefore important that the child’s enjoy this time in order for bonding to happen naturally.

Ideally, grandparents should start reading to their grandchildren when they are still babies. This time can be spent in different ways from reciting a nursery rhyme to reading a simple book. The books can be upgraded as the child grows though in most cases reading to younger grandchildren requires reading a book repeatedly. Reading should be done in phases to allow time for interaction where the grandchild gets a chance to ask questions, which are always so many and interesting. The grandchild will also share what they think about the story and probably try to anticipate what happens next in the story.

Picture books are some of the best reading tools that easily facilitate bonding between many grandparents and their grandchildren. Talking to the grandchildren about the pictures helps them to visualize. The grandchild can then be asked to point out pictures while the grandparent reads to assess the grandchild’s coordination and understanding. With time the child can retell a particular story while pointing to the pictures.

A grandparent can effectively bond with their grandchild through reading by nurturing them to be readers. This can be done by setting regular time for reading either after dinner or before bedtime. The grandchildren should have access to other reading materials such as comic books, food labels, cookbooks, newspapers and magazines among many others. Being a role model is important and a grandparent should share any interesting aspects they learn from the books they are reading with their grandchildren. Grandchildren who grow up reading with their grandparents are likely to develop great affection and liking for them and in the process cultivate a culture of reading.

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Saving For a Grandchild’s Education

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Grandparents can now save toward their grandchildren’s college fund easily because this kind of fund recently received a further tax cut. Section 529 Savings Plan for College, which is so named after the U.S. tax Section 529 code, is the newly ratified education fund with tax benefits. It is said to be many grandparents’ gift to their grandchildren, as the savings bond was to their generation.

Section 529 is different from the other Section 529 that deals with tuition programs that are prepaid at state school at the day’s dollar rates for the future education of a child. The savings plan envisioned in this Section 529 endeavors to let anybody set up the accounts, from friends, other relatives, parents or grandparents. The growth of the investment is tax free, as is the distributions, as used in paying for tuition and additional education connected expenses such as living expenses, books, room and board and so forth, at an accredited university or college.

This help will be welcomed by families, considering that a private four year college education costs higher than a hundred thousand in today’s terms. This will almost double in twelve years, at an annual 5.5% inflation rate due to tuition costs rising higher than overall inflation. Without breaching federal tax on gifts, grandparents can contribute about eleven thousand dollars as individuals or twenty two thousand dollars as couples, with this savings plan. To begin with, grandparents can contribute about fifty five thousand dollars for singles or as a couple, a hundred and ten thousand dollars to the Section 529 savings plan at any one time, therefore spreading the exclusion of the gift tax over the five years of saving. If the contributor/s dies within the five years, the remaining bit is returned to the estate for tax reasons.

A grandparent can establish multiple accounts, though the exclusion of gift tax is counted towards the total contributions, for instance, when accounts are opened in two separate states for the same grandchild. Other than this, control and flexibility is offered by the Section 529 plan, unlike other techniques, which passes control of the money to the grandchildren once majority age is attained. With this savings plan, the grandparents decide when withdrawals are made and their purposes. Beneficiaries can be switched and funds reclaimed in certain circumstances. Withdrawals are subject to a penalty of ten percent in addition to income tax.

Despite Section 529 being authorized by congress in ’96, their popularity is set to rise due to their added flexibility and the tax free, new earnings. State-sponsored plans are accessible in forty different states. Additionally, people have the option of signing up in another state if their home state does not sponsor any plans. Some states charge taxes for any withdrawals while others do not. People also have the option of moving a less performing plan to a better performing plan in another state. This ensures that regardless of their location, they will get the best possible plan for their grandchildren.

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Video Games - The Savior of Public Education

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Four of every ten young-adult dropouts receive some government assistance. Dropouts are eight times more likely to be in jail, and half of all prison inmates are dropouts. (Milliken, 2008) Dropouts begin the dropping out process as early as fourth grade when it becomes quite apparent they cannot read well enough to keep pace with the curriculum. Or worse yet, when they can no longer handle the shame and embarrassment of special education.

These consequences translate into lost tax revenues and higher costs. We can only be economically vibrant when our residents are engaged in productive careers in this competitive global economy. Global competition begins with strong literacy skills.

Since the 1940s k-12 schools taught the whole language concept of reading- memorizing words, known as sight-reading. When we were a manufacturing society, sight-reading and memorization was the easy quick way to prepare people for the factory as basic reading skills were necessary. Unfortunately, whole language has virtually left generations of students functionally illiterate to struggle with reading every day in this highly complex world.

The saddest tragedy is that these students are naturally tech savvy and prefer self challenge skills that are necessary for today’s global society. Skills America needs to secure high demand businesses,” states Ida Byrd-Hill President of Uplift, Inc.

According to Claire Raines, author of Connecting Generations: The Sourcebook, Millennials, those ages 13 to 23 years of age, prefer to learn using teamwork, technology, structure, entertainment and experiential activities. These students are considered technical natives having been raised with cell phones, DVDs, and video game consoles since their birth. They are naturally technical savvy and prefer self challenge.

Millennials can be found manipulating video games — every day of the week for hours developing a skill of self challenge. This population loves the excitement and thrill of video games. Major game retailers, such as EB Games and Gamestop, have followed these Millennials, even to locations within the inner city.

Their curiosity, intensity and seriousness about their video games is refreshing. They have even joined informal clubs to compete. They read complicated gaming magazines to decipher how to move to the top level within any game.

According to Information Week 7/18/2008, “So far this year, retailers have sold $16.6 billion in video games, consoles, and related products, compared with $12.2 billion during the same period a year ago.” Video gaming is gaining momentum even in a shaky economy. Video gaming challenges a person’s brain especially since participants spend hours of time playing the game.

It appears many people believe this fact as sixty-five percent of American households play computer or video games. Eighty-five percent of all games sold in 2007 were rated “E” for Everyone, “T” for Teen, or “E10+” for Everyone 10+. Ninety-four percent of game players under the age of 18 report that their parents are present when they purchase or rent games. Sixty-three percent of parents believe games are a positive part of their children’s lives.

Imagine transporting the elements of video games to the reading arena. Gaming technology can revolutionize reading as it allows for fun repetitive review of concepts and vocabulary. Children could read and pass standardized test with ease. America could return to its dominance in education from its perch of 21 out of 25 industrialized nations where it slipped. Sounds like a pipe dream. Until one looks at STRONG READER.

STRONG READER is a cyber class that combines phonics, etymology and reading comprehension with video lessons, video games, avatars and puzzles to engage students to complete the process of reading development. Listen to a video lesson, answer a question correctly then play the video game. Most online literacy classes are textual based. Sample game below. Play 1 round

http://www.cyberschoolinc.com/Website game/HOOP SHOOT 11a.swf

This cyber class was created by Uplift, Inc. and evolved out of an English class developed at Hustle & TECHknow Preparatory High School, a cyber school catering to high school dropouts with this statistical makeup.

Student Body Makeup

93 Students 70 Boys, 23 Girls,

Ethnic Makeup

1% Asian 2% Caucasian 96% African American

Residential Makeup

91% Detroit Residents 9% Suburban Residents

Special Needs Makeup

30 % Adjudicated Youth 81% Economically disadvantaged

A cyber school is a brick –and-mortar school with part online/ part classroom instruction.

With this unique student body makeup, Hustle & TECHknow Preparatory High School achieved these successes:

Won Educational Program of the Year Automation Alley 2007

Collective Lexile reading scores moved from 4.2 grade to 7.8 grade in less than one year.

Three students qualified as 79 quarter finalists for the National Vocabulary Championship out of 10,000 participants

Three teams participated in the Think Quest Website design competition

Inaugural graduation rate 80% June 2007

100% post secondary enrollment

Managed Algebra, Geometry, Trigonometry and Pre-Calculus

Began Fencing Team with Compuware Coach

If your child struggles with the shame and embarrassment of special education resource rooms because they can not read subscribe to STRONG READER. If you struggle with reading as an adult subscribe to STRONG READER.

Subscription prices.

One time fee of $175 or $35 per month for 5 months.

Go to www.cyberschoolinc.com to subscribe. Subscription is Paypal secured.

Desire to review a demo, accept confidentiality agreement here. Instructions to the demo will popup. Keep in mind this demo is an 8th grade student assessed at reading level of 3.1.

Ida Byrd-Hill is the President of Uplift, Inc, a 501(c)3 non profit Idea Incubator reconstructing cities One Idea at a Time. She is the author of Breakin’ Out of Your Financial Funk and creator of the cyber class STRONG READER. She can be reached at http://www.upliftinc.org.

What to Offer Your Mom at Christmas?

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Although some would say that the best Christmas gift you can offer to your Mother is your presence, this is beside the point for this article purpose. You need to think of something special and unique to give to your mom because everybody loves to receive one of those beautiful presents tied with some lovely ribbons on Christmas day.

One thing to remember is variety is the key. For example, if you have given your mom some beauty products last Christmas, it would be a very good idea to try not to give her the same type of Christmas gift this year. We all love surprises and your mom is no different so surprise her on December 25th. The best gift will really make her special. Another great idea is to get her something that she can also enjoy with your dad.

What About a Vacation Package?

No one will argue that a trip to the Caribbean for two represent one of the top Christmas gifts that you can give to your mother. Of course, to offer a vacation package like that you have to be doing well in your career or having some money to spare. If you’re in that kind of situations, giving your parents a dream trip to the Caribbean will not really bankrupt you.

Since a vacation trip to the Caribbean is not a gift everyone can afford to give, another idea on the same theme would be to consider getting a vacation package for your parents that is cheaper but equally beautiful. Your parents don’t have to live the country.

A few days vacation by the lake or by the beach will surely make your parents very happy. There are so many vacation places within the country that you can choose from. Just think a bit, go to your local tourism office and ask for dream vacation spots in your area.

The Ultimate Gift for Your Mom: The Spa

Don’t forget that it is important to give your mother something that she can personally use and enjoy aside from the gift she can share with your father. Of course, your mother loves your dad dearly, but she also needs to enjoy some peace and quiet all her own and look after herself.

What a better way to get your mom off the daily stressful routines in the house then to give her a gift certificate to the spa as a Christmas gift. You will certainly agree that treating your mother to the spa can be a very interesting Christmas present. Imagine her enjoying a whole day of relaxation and pampering at the spa. Yes, that is absolutely what your mother needs after spending all that taking care of everyone in the family.

Furthermore, did you know that going to the spa offers lots of health benefits for your mom? Indeed, according to many studies, the time spent relaxing at the spa is a very good way to restore your natural balance and melt away stress.

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Halloween Costumes For This Year’s Kids Party

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Halloween is fast approaching. Only a few days left and we’ll all be enjoying the party. Were you able to make a perfect plan for your Halloween costume this year? How about your kids? Do they have the best kids costume for this year? Letting kids wear last years costume is not a good idea so, we’ll start by introducing bright ideas for this year’s celebration.

Scary costumes are always fit for the celebration, but Halloween party does not necessarily mean wearing scary Halloween costumes. Your kid can be a superhero, fairy tale character, cartoon or anime character, a book, a walking shower, a mad scientist or any imaginative character you can think of. All that you need is a little workout on your creativity and imagination. This is the day when you break the rules of letting kids wear their best dresses during parties.

Young boys are always on the adventurous side and giving them superhero costumes will be delightful. The undying craze for Spiderman and Venom is a good combination and are perfect costumes for kids. Ironman, Hulk, and Batman are additional choices suitable for the party. Kids can also portray the villain side characters such as Joker and Darth Vader.

Girls on the other hand are more interested in fairy tale and other female characters. Ariel from the Little Mermaid, Barbie, Hannah, and Gabriella are the most popular costumes for girls today. Fairy tale characters like Tinkerbell, Dorothy, Rapunzel, Cinderella, and Snow White are also good costumes for young girls on the magical side of the occasion. Mix all these Halloween costumes with good decorations will blowout one good party.

For kids who want some scary looks, the traditional vampire, skeleton, mummy, jester, witch, wizard, and zombie are among the best choices that will surely satisfy the desire for scary looks. Just remember not put to much violent materials on a kid’s costume as some kids might find it bloody and get carried away. Most of these costumes are suitable for both genders.

Finding these incredible costumes is easy. You can pick any of these at the nearest store or have a look for more selection online. There are thousands of online stores that have wide collection of costumes that you can choose from. But before placing anything to the shopping cart, make sure to compare prices and inquiry additional detail about your pick.

The purpose of the celebration is to enjoy and feel the spirit of Halloween. No matter what costumes you choose for your kids make sure that it offers the comfort they need. These costumes will definitely not offer the same relaxation they’ll experience on their regular dresses. Informing them on things they need to adjust with the costume for the next few hours will be beneficial. The celebration can last for few hours, but the experience will remain forever. Let kids enjoy the celebration and Happy Halloween!

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Five Good Reasons to Create Photo Books

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Do you take a lot of photos? Do you have a lot of old photos? Have you thought about how to display them? Chances are you have them all stored on a hard drive or a photo archiving website, if they’re digital, or in a shoebox if they’re paper. Chances are all those precious memories are being ignored. If you would like a convenient way to share your memories, and generate interest in them, consider creating photo books.

Create Photo Books For Your Family

Photo books are a lot like photo albums but a lot more permanent and durable. Photo books also have another advantage over albums—they can be reproduced. You probably have lots of photos of your family, documenting your whole life together. Why not put them together in digital photo books you can give to everyone in your family? Organize them by year, and if the photos aren’t already digital you can scan them or have them scanned, and you can easily create custom photo books at many of the websites where you upload and share your photos.

Create Photo Books to Document

Your Family Tree Have you researched your lineage? Do you know your ancestors’ life stories, and have the pictures to prove it? Why not document your family’s history by creating photo books? Just think—you could take everything you know about your family tree, combine it with photos, and create a photo book to give to all your family members, even your extended family. All you’d have to do is scan those old photos, or have them scanned, and assemble a photo book from them!

Create Photo Books to Remember Your Vacation

What was the best vacation you ever had? Whether you took a year off to travel around the world, or a long weekend to go to your favorite fishing hole, you probably have lots of fond memories of that vacation—and lots of photos too. Chances are, those photos are probably parked on a hard drive or in a shoebox somewhere, aren’t they? Wouldn’t they be better in a professionally printed photo book that you could make for everyone who vacationed with you? Memories, after all, are made to be cherished—and shared.

Create Photo Books to Commemorate Your Pets

Do you have fond memories of your favorite pet from childhood? Most people do. Do you have a pet now? If you do, you probably take lots of photos of your pet. If you haven’t taken lots of photos of your pet, you should probably start. What better to cherish memories of your lovable pet’s place in your life than assembling all your photos of that pet into a photo book?

Create Photo Books to Show Your Love to That Special Someone

Finally, remember how you met your significant other? Over the years you’ve spent together you’ve likely taken quite a few photographs. Why not surprise the love of your life by giving them a photo book of your prized memories, customized just for you and the love of your life?

MJ Johnston writes for a variety of websites, including Digitalphotoalbumsite.com, site that offers advice on the quickest and easiest way to build a digital photo album, as well as free online photo storage.

Create Photo Books Around a Theme

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Have you started to create photo books out of all those photos you take yet? It’s easy, if you store your photos in an online gallery. Many online galleries offer you the opportunity to print photo books of your photos. You can have the photo books you create bound like real books, the kind you buy in the bookstore. You can print multiple copies for whomever you see fit to give them to.

Knowing it’s so easy to have photo books printed, what do you put in them? No doubt you have lots of photos, but how do you organize them? Your photo books will be more interesting if you organize them by theme. For example, you’ve probably organized photo albums primarily chronologically. You take some pictures of your dogs, your cats, a beautiful sunset, your mother, your kids, a sporting event, your kids sporting event, a fishing trip with the guys, etc. You dump them all in an album together, more or less in the order you took them.

Organizing the photo books you create chronologically is alright, but think about this: will everyone who will be interested in the photo books you create want to see all the photos? If you think about it, they probably won’t. The kids will want to see pictures of themselves and of the pets, and your spouse will be bored to death by the fishing trip pictures. Your buddies, on the other hand, know what your spouse looks like, could care less about those cute pictures of your fat cat trying to stuff himself into a shoebox, and just want to see the pictures of the fishing trip you went on with them. Why not, then, organize your photo books by theme?

You took the time and energy to buy the camera and figure out how to use it. Why not take a little more time to organize your photos into themes for each specific audience? That way you can create photo books you know your friends and family will enjoy. It just might encourage you to take more pictures too. If your kids love the photo books you create of your beloved pets, wouldn’t that spur you on to take more photos of your pets?

You can even add text to your photo books. This can range from the very simple and obvious, merely describing what’s in the picture, to more complex storytelling. For example, you can come up with witty captions for the fishing trip photos (if ever any vacation inspired witty captions, it’d be a fishing trip, wouldn’t it?) You can, of course, include ordinary information like dates, times, places, and people’s names, but you can also have some fun with it too. In fact, you can add more text than just the description of the photos if you want. For example, if you take pictures every time your son has a little league game, you can include reports on the game and even box scores.

MJ Johnston writes for a variety of websites, including Digitalphotoalbumsite.com, site that offers advice on the quickest and easiest way to build a digital photo album, as well as free online photo storage.

Create Photo Books to Tell a Story

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Every picture tells a story, doesn’t it? If every picture tells a story, then combining pictures surely must tell a story. You can add words to the story, too. Wouldn’t that be a great way to present your photos, especially those documenting an event with family or friends? It’s easy to do. Many websites, the kind that offer you the opportunity to create online galleries of your photos, also allow you to create photo books. If you want to use this medium to tell a story, its’ easy!

The first thing you need to think about to create a photo book to tell a story is, not surprisingly, what story you want to tell. This may seem obvious, but there is a subtle side to it. Let’s say you want to create photo books of your son’s little league season. Do you include every single photo? Well, you could. But chances are, you took a lot of photos. You don’t need to include them all, do you? Probably you won’t want to. Think about what happened over the course of your son’s little league season, games lost and won, and special moments for your son, such as his best plays.

Select your photos so that they tell the story of his season. It will be even better if you plan the photo book before the season starts. That way, you can make sure you get the photos you need to tell the story, not just the occasional snapshot when you think of it. You will need a few photos to document the general action of each game, and not just the highlights of your son’s play if you want to do this right. You may be wondering why you’d need to tell the story of the whole team, instead of just your son’s contribution. If you think about it the answer is obvious—the photo book you create isn’t just for you, it’s for your son. If you document the whole season well, your son can give copies to his teammates as well. Wouldn’t you rather have a photo book that your son will enjoy, that will enhance his stature amongst his peers, than just a photo book to make you happy?

Probably the best way to create this particular photo book is to adopt the sports yearbook format. That means one entry or chapter per game, with pictures, box scores, standings, and any interesting anecdotes from on and off the field. You may also want to shoot pictures at some of the team’s practices as well. If you do it right you could have a lasting testament to your son’s season, one that both he and you will cherish.

This particular example is based on a sports season but the principles used to create photo books with a narrative apply to any other subject. It could be your vacation, your daughter’s first ballet class, or even giving the dog a bath. All you need to make a story is a beginning, middle and end.

MJ Johnston writes for a variety of websites, including Digitalphotoalbumsite.com, site that offers advice on the quickest and easiest way to build a digital photo album, as well as free online photo storage.

Printable Charts For Kids — Keeping Your Kids in the Game

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

If you like to use a variety of printable charts for kids in your home to modify and encourage behavior, you know motivation is a huge issue. All children are different, of course, but here are three ideas I’ve used successfully with my four children to keep motivation high and results happening.

1. Keep it fun.

Depending upon what you’re trying to accomplish, you may be using printable reward charts, blank chore charts, or

printable behavior charts. The main point of keeping the whole process bubbling with a bit of fun is vital. Chances are whatever you are asking your child to accomplish is less than fun or you wouldn’t need a chart system to begin with!

– Use short-term rewards to teach about initiative and long-term rewards to teach about perseverance. Both are vital lessons and neither comes naturally. As your child develops good habits, short-term rewards can be decreased, but until then keep things lively and fun.

– Even chores can be turned into a game. Can one child go faster than the other? Set a timer for ten minutes; who can get done, correctly, in that amount of time? Add music, jokes, and encouragement to the mix.

2. Teamwork.

Most kids will more willingly cooperate when they’re working alongside someone else. That’s true for most adults, as well. Sure, your kids need to be able to do their assigned chores or work on their behaviors at any given time, but throwing some teamwork into the mix can really boost motivation. My young daughter is learning to play the keyboard. That involves daily practice and it is often boring. But more than just wanting her to learn and enjoy the musical experience (as wonderful as that is), she’ll never get there without learning the discipline of good daily habits. So after many years away from the piano, I am re-learning with her, including daily practice. It’s a lot more interesting to share our journey with each other and this technique results in a lot less nagging, too.

3. Put your charges in charge - a little bit.

Depending upon the ages of your children, help them learn about running a household by giving them the opportunity to be responsible for it from time to time. You set up the schedule for your own situation, get everything written on your printable charts so everyone knows what’s going on and when, and then have your children be in charge for a week here and there.

They’ll find it’s a much different game trying to manage the household than it is to just show up and take orders. Competing schedules, different personalities, and the realities of daily life is a great attitude adjustor for growing kids. Of course, you’ll need to help and guide them, depending upon their ages, and a child who tackles this project deserves a better reward than the one who just does his small share of the load.

Printable charts for kids are great tools when used effectively. Remember that keeping the process fun, employing teamwork and giving your kids a whiff of real responsibility can help keep the motivation high and the results coming in strong.

Colleen Langenfeld has been parenting for over 27 years and helps other moms enjoy mothering more at http://www.paintedgold.com . Visit her website and get free printable charts for kids today.

Printable Reward Charts - The 3 Keys For Sure Success

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

If you have used printable reward charts with your children in the past, you have probably experienced frustration once or twice. That’s because, while reward charts are a great teaching tool, they are often used too casually to produce results.

If you would like to see results using printable charts, you’ll need to organize your efforts a bit. The good news is these ideas are not difficult. Consistency is the real key here.

1. Be clear.

Do your kids know exactly why you are asking them to participate in using a reward chart? I mean EXACTLY why? Before you fill out one chore or behavior chart, you need to sit down with yourself and ask what you want to accomplish using these tools.

* Are you trying to teach a specific chore? For example, how, when and what to clean? Or getting control of clutter?

* Are you trying to improve your child’s organizational habits? Or are you really trying to improve *your* organizational habits?

* Are you aiming for character development training? Improving a bad attitude or dealing with non-stop sibling rivalry?

* Do you really need printable homework charts instead of reward charts?

The point here is that until you are crystal clear about what you are aiming for, you probably are not going to achieve it. Once you get clear on your goal, explain this to your child. For example, if you tell your child that he needs to keep his room clean but don’t spell that out in detail, you can be assured that your idea of his room being clean and his idea are totally different.

So be clear with your expectations, explain them to your child and write those expectations on the reward charts you use. Now everyone is on the same page.

2. Be positive.

No one likes to be nagged. In over 27 years of parenting I’ve never seen nagging produce lasting results. Momentary ones, yes. But then you must keep nagging and you will get less and less satisfactory results.

There’s got to be a better way and there is.

Keep the whole process positive and matter-of-fact. Use rewards and prizes to keep people excited and in the game, but remember, ultimately, family members have to take ownership of the tasks you put on the reward charts in order to be successful. Nagging keeps you owning the situation. A positive attitude puts the ball back in your child’s court.

“I see by looking at your reward chart that you have two items left to work on today (or whatever the situation is in your home). Those must be done by dinnertime; let me know when they are completed.” (What if they won’t do their chores? That’s called consequences; keep reading.)

No nagging. Remember, your attitude will be picked up by your child. As the parent, you set the tone in your home. Kids of any age have difficulties with their attitudes; it’s called growing up. Be straightforward and let your kids know that positive is the tone you want in your home. Then show them how to do it and practice together.

3. Follow through.

Since you’re reading an article about reward charts, you must be interested in offering your kids a reward or prize for some sort of behavior modification. That’s fine, just make sure you follow through. Nothing will kill motivation faster in your household than a child learning that she won’t *really* get the reward she was promised for doing her part.

Likewise, if there are consequences for not getting the tasks completed you have assigned (and there must be consequences), then those must be followed through on as well or you have no hope of motivating your child to change their behavior. All children test their parent’s boundaries with great consistency. This is normal behavior. Likewise, it’s normal parenting behavior to have to enforce the boundaries that have been set.

Obviously, what this really means is that you, as the parent, must give careful consideration to both rewards and consequences before this process even starts. Don’t overdo or under-do. No trips to Disneyland for a clean bathroom and no groundings for forgetting to hang up a towel once. Bottom line is always the Golden Rule. Treat others as you want to be treated. And enforce those boundaries!

Using printable reward charts can be a ‘rewarding’ experience in a family if you remember to use these tools effectively by getting clear on your expectations, staying positive and following through from start to finish. Consistency with these three keys will yield tremendous success over the lifetime of your family.

Colleen Langenfeld has been parenting for over 27 years and helps other moms enjoy mothering more at http://www.paintedgold.com . Visit her website and get free printable reward charts today.